Your Man Loves You, But He Cheats

Tiger Woods. President Bill Clinton. Eric Benet. David Letterman. Gov. Mark Sanford. Gov. Elliot Spitzer. Rev. Jesse Jackson. Bill Cosby. Jesse James. Rev. Jimmy Swaggart. President John F. Kennedy. Rev. Jamal Bryant. Matthew Knowles. Magic Johnson. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. What do all of these men have in common: They are all cheaters!! Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors, and they are universally loved by men. The problem is, there are so many women in this world that it is hard for men to choose. According to Wikipedia, there is a world-wide population of 6,813,600,000 as of April 9, 2010. That’s almost seven BILLION people!! No one can know for sure how many of this 6.8 billion are women (and for the purposes of this blog, “women” is defined as any and all humans that have a vagina and are at least 21 years of age), but in some neighborhoods, women easily outnumber men by as many as 8 to 1!! Unless your name is Tiger Woods, 8 is a lot of women to juggle at one time, but that doesn’t stop brothas from trying! The question many women want to know is: Why can’t men be faithful? But frankly, that’s like asking, “Why is the sky blue?!” Men cheat because they can. But it would be overly simplistic to break it down only in terms of the ratio of women to men. Monogamy is unnatural!! There, I said it!! Chris Rock said married men, in order to NOT cheat, have to “recycle the p*ssy”, but for some men, there isn’t enough recycling (or sexual tricks) in the world!! Recycling still means life without the possibility of another woman’s…………… uh, well you get the point!! Men would love not to cheat, but it’s not in our nature to NOT cheat. Do you honestly think any of the great men I mentioned above wanted to risk tarnishing their reputations, hurting their wives and children, and in some cases losing their jobs and families? Hell no!! So if the men above cheated (including quite a few preachers), what do you think your man is doing? I laugh at women that say what their man won’t do! Someone reading this might think that I’m some sort of insensitive, SINGLE bastard that condones cheating. I don’t!! But I’m baffled by why women continually fall into the trap of believing that if they just ‘do this’ or ‘do that’ then their man won’t cheat. ‘If I just sex him better’, blah, blah, blah!! Take a good look at the list of men above. One of the men is Eric Benet. Remember him? He was married to Halle Berry for crying out loud! Halle Berry I said!! Arguably the world’s finest woman! Another trap women fall into is the trap of love. “He wouldn’t do that to me because he loves me!” Yeah OK lady! Tell me when you get off that high you’re on, cause you obviously just smoked some good sh*t! If you believe that, I’ve got a bridge to sell you! But the biggest trap women make is in trying to understand. Stop asking “Why?” Haven’t you heard that Men are from Mars; women are from Venus. People make it seem like a man cheating on his wife started with Tiger Woods! Cheating is old as dirt! Giacomo Casanova was probably the world’s 1st player back in the 18th century. That’s why modern-day players are often referred to as “Cassanova’s”. People like to talk about their parents, and how they have been married for 45 years; and about Grandpa Ruford and Grandma Hilda, and how they have been married for 70 years! Well, I got news for you: Your daddy cheated!! Grandpa Ruford did too!! Do you REALLY believe that he was ONLY with Hilda for 70 years?!! Hell, cheating on Grandma Hilda is how Ruford lasted 70 years! But why are countless men risking it all for the sex? My wife likes to say, “He went through all that over a piece of p*ssy!!” She said it about Tiger Woods. Said it about President Clinton. Said it about people we know. But the truth ladies is that men are as faithful as our options. And there are lots of options for most men. Even ugly men. Don’t believe me. Well, obviously, you didn’t see Notorious!! Even Biggie Smalls was getting it in! And before you say to yourself, “Yeah, but THAT dude had dough!” we all knew a Biggie in school, or in the neighborhood back in the day! The kind of dude that you would just scratch your head and say, “Damn, how the f*ck is he getting all these girls?!!” Or, “What do they see in HIM?!” Now as mad as I probably made some of you (my wife included), notice what I didn’t say. I didn’t say that a man CAN’T be faithful. Nor did I say that there aren’t ANY faithful men out there. OK, very few, but they’re out there ladies. OK, 99% of the faithful men are in jail, but they are still “out there”! A man can force himself into being monogamous. And as long as he stays committed to his commitment to stay faithful, he WILL be. And time is definitely a factor. The longer a man has been faithful in a committed, long-term relationship/marriage, the more likely it is that he will remain faithful. For the hopeless romantics reading this, what else do most of these men have in common: Most of the men I mentioned are, or stayed married to the woman they cheated on. I know I probably didn’t add any great insight to the age-old act of cheating, but as I always say, “It is what it is!!” Click on the title ("Your Man Loves You But He Cheats") to connect to a blog on this topic by Deya Direct Smith (Just added on 4/13/10)